Day 7 No Contact with my son's father!
Going no contact has been one of the most challenging times I have experienced. It's a journey that requires immense strength and resilience. To all the women who have experienced this, I want to acknowledge your courage and perseverance. I credit women who have had to use the no-contact method while keeping a happy front for their child or children. I know it doesn't make sense to love someone you hate, but your strength in doing so is truly commendable. I never thought I would be able to go no contact, but here I am on day 7!
Have you ever been No Contact?
I know I deserve respect; I should not be mistreated. It is a must; I go NO Contact! It's crucial to remember our worth and not tolerate mistreatment. I deserve happiness, and while I know happiness comes from within, it's also about creating a life free from toxicity. I
f a person is on a mission every day to make your life a living hell, it is hard to be happy indeed. You have to remove that person! It's about setting boundaries and prioritizing your well-being. Many times, he made me feel I could not remove him due to financial control and that no one else would want me because of our son's condition. But I had to do an inventory of what I have accomplished since having our son and what he has achieved. He is so focused on destroying me that he is destroying himself; that is what it showed!
Tuesday and Wednesday, you showed concern, calling and sending multiple text messages asking if we were okay. That used to work, but I am in a different season of my life, and I had to tell myself he knows damn well I and our son are okay. Did he show the same concern in 2023? April 8th, the day before Easter, our son was discharged from the hospital. We dyed Easter Eggs; that was the last day we saw you for 5.5 months. So, have several seats, these 21 days should be easy! He is not handling the No Contact well!
Thursday started the foolishness; now, he threatened to come to my house to check on our son. He could care less about us but is losing control of the situation. I quickly put my son in the car to keep things calm, and we drove off. Child and the way you have to come out my condo to get in the car because my silly butt did not put the car in the garage, I was scared you hear me. Once we got about 10 minutes from my house, I FaceTimed him and gave the phone to my son. They chatted, now mind you, when we were on good terms or when I was doing everything he said; he rarely video chats our son. He will text me how he is doing and wants me to respond within an hour.
14 DAYS LEFT, NO CONTACT!
Let's take a moment to reflect on Friday and Saturday. On both days, I found myself facing a threatening pop-up message for not responding. This time, though, I felt a sense of calm. After the chaos of Thursday, I had decided to escape for the weekend and lay low. My son went to spend time with my mom, and I seized the opportunity to venture out of town. I was craving tranquility and a break from the usual noise of daily life. It was exactly what I needed to recharge! It's in these moments of self-care and respite that we find peace and inspiration to continue our journey.
I am staying focused, I know going NO Contact might be hard!
I want to be clear: I want him to build a strong relationship with our son. However, it is crucial that he respects my role as the mother and establishes appropriate boundaries in our interactions. Over the years, I've often heard warnings from others that some men may choose to have a child as a way to create a lasting connection or attachment, and I find myself reflecting on that advice more than ever.
Throughout the past nine years, I have made countless sacrifices for the well-being of our family, but I've reached a point where I can no longer bear the emotional strain. As our son grows older, he becomes more aware of our dynamics. He can sense the tension and the underlying issues, and it worries me that this atmosphere could negatively affect him. We must address these concerns to ensure a healthier environment for our child.
I feel a renewed sense of excitement as I embark on prioritizing myself. Despite the difficulties I've faced over the past week, I can already sense a shift in my perspective. Each day, I am discovering that the path to self-care and self-acceptance becomes smoother, and I'm learning to embrace the small victories along the way. Going No Contact might not be the way for everyone, but this is indeed what I need to gain my power back and gain ME back!